As you learn to attend to this “hurt love” (and you really do), it will stop interfering, influencing, contaminating your relationships, your present and your projects.
If you still did it, because you didn’t know how to do it any other way, just allow it to happen, giving your full attention, in this case you will simply learn something new that is also worthwhile.
Being nice to the guest and being nice to the host, leads you …. to know that it is not a matter of hiding the guest in the basement; or allow him to steal your bed!
When you really learn to look at your “hurt love” as a guest, it loses intensity and you can accept it as a part of yourself that you will continue to attend to, but it no longer dominates you.
Now you know that you are much more than that hurt love.
That balance between the guest and the host, your ability to embrace and attend to that Hurt Love makes joy be recognized as your true home.
A true happiness.
You, with your compassion, with your ability to care for your own pain and fear with kindness, are a thousand times greater than any fear, any pain or confusion. You are present, aware.
Knowing it and feeling it is what makes you serenely joyful, magnificently happy.